When the partner’s rage and resentment are subdued over an amount of time, they eventually take off in a volcano of rage, blame, as well as the angry objection of the sex addict.
The surge of disappointed feelings can open up a door to huge guilt and also remorse, so the companion might forgive the addict’s offences and also not stand clear in setting limits for herself. The outcome is a regrettable entrapment for the pair, where the partner unknowingly enables the sex addict to carry on with his inappropriate pattern of sex-related acting out.
This can include taking out any sexual activity with the addict. These stonewalling habits could stir up strong sensations of pity and also be rejected by the sex addict. In a way, the companion is successful in punishing the sex addict via these actions.
A tremendously debilitating result on the companion is to think all duty for the addict’s sex-related acting out, and even for all the troubles in the connection. The sex addict could exploit this to his benefit, bolstering self-doubt within the companion.
The partner might face her partner with evidence of a transgression, like a credit rating card fee to a resort, yet the sex addict is competent and skilled in deception. He will boldly challenge the companion’s reliability, suggesting she see a “reduce” for being so paranoid and suspicious of him. He could persuasively invent righteous indignation, triggering his partner to mistrust her very own reactions as well as perceptions, even when faced with concrete evidence.
The self-uncertainty can afflict the companion, worsening her confusion and also adding to the feeling of “losing my mind”. Not wishing to continuously feel “crazy”, she could pull back into rejection, the fundamental as well as most fundamental defence reaction for both partner and addict. When in denial, she will certainly believe the addict’s lies, nevertheless far-fetched they could be. She will certainly accept the unacceptable. Whichever lies the sex addict uses to cover his dependency, she is forced to “not stir things up” in order to relieve her desertion concerns.